I wanted to share my birth story of my second birth – which happened to be a footling breech (unbeknownst to us). Quite often I come across horrific birth stories. So few people I know offer positive birth stories and I beg the question as to why? Both my births were wonderful and exhilarating, the first a textbook birth and the second a complete topsy turvy (literally), but I believe overrides any ‘normal’ birth with no complications. I choose to present it in a positive light, because that’s what it was – a positive birth. A safe birth. A birth to remember.
There is so much information and prep for the pregnancy and birth of your baby, but after my first child was born I struggled with the postpartum experience. Nobody had told me what to expect, and experiencing it made me feel utterly alone and helpless… I was so unprepared!
It’s been 3 weeks since I gave birth to my second baby*, and reliving all the postpartum joy has sparked me to write about the things they don’t tell you about…
1 – Contractions
What? You’ve given birth and you’re sill experiencing contractions? What type of witchcraft is this, you may ask? Yip – your uterus will continue to contract after you’ve given birth. This is a good thing though, as the more it contractions the quicker your uterus will return to ‘normal’ size, and the quicker your belly will shrink too. Still, this doesn’t take away from the pain you experience as your pelvis lights on fire and you double over in agony… oh, and if you’re breastfeeding HAHAHA good luck to you.
Right – here is the best advice I can give you: when interacting with a Mom who has reached full term pregnancy, refrain from asking the most annoying and somewhat stupid questions of “Has the baby arrived?” or “Any news yet?”. Things like “when can we expect her?” and “do you think you’re in labour yet” fall under this category too.
Trust me, as a woman who has reached her 40 week mark, I can assure you… If the baby HAS ARRIVED, you would know about it and would not have to ask such a dumb thing. We all know baby has, in fact, not arrived, so why ask that? Rather check in with Mom and see how she is doing. Ask if she needs help around the house or offer to take her for a cup of coffee (yes, I drink coffee in pregnancy). And please, by all that is good and green on this Earth, do not make reference to how annoyed you are that her baby isn’t here yet, or how impatient you have become because you want to meet the baby. And do not dare mention how the Mom-to-be needs to “hurry up” and “tell the baby to come out”. If anyone has a right to feeling impatient that her baby has not been born yet, it is the Mother carrying that said baby. Nobody else.
I just got my photos from my Maternity Shoot I did at 34 weeks – I am IN LOVE with them!
I didn’t get a chance to have a photoshoot with my first pregnancy (cries) so I was determined to have one this time around. I love the outdoor/nature shoots, and had a very specific look & feel in mind when I contacted Kyle from Bravo Photography (my go-to guy for photos in Johannesburg). Lucky for me, he was totally on par with what I had in mind, and had done a fair few other shoots which were similar (he even had awesome dresses for me to wear).
My awesome Baby Shower happened on the first weekend in July.
It was so pink and lovely and special and ugh! I just loved every moment!
It was crafted around a ‘High Tea’ look and feel, with delicious (alcohol free) pink champers served upon arrival. There were cute little balloons floating around everywhere and yummy finger snacks served among the tea and cake. I had no idea what to expect – it was a lovely surprise!
Hello my #MotherMuses Fam! We recently attended a weekend course for HypnoBirthing, and I wanted to share my experience with you. A few of my Mommy friends (and non-mommy friends) have been asking me about it – what is it? What do they teach you? How is it different to antenatal? And… Do they really hypnotise you during birth?
Even my own Mother doesn’t really understand it… but fear not! I shall attempt to enlighten you as much as I can!